I have been contemplating my future and existence a lot this last week. The recent ‘super moon’ has my mind pondering the vastness and scale of the
cosmos and my place in it. Staring up at the tidally locked satellite of the home we call Earth can be quite thought provoking. Roughly 250,000 miles from us, reflecting the light from the closest star to us, our sun, it is truly spectacular. Sure it doesn't have any liquid methane volcanoes but I like it.
I finally got a chance to visit one of my best friends who I usually only get to see once a year. He brought his family out from the mid-west to visit all his friends and family in California. It’s always good to see old friends but this particular visit brought up that ‘I’m single and want to date but I can’t seem to find anyone’ emotion. My male biological clock is ticking and I really am looking for a serious relationship. I’m not going to necessarily jump into the first romance that comes along, but I won’t close my mind to that possibility either, because love can arrive at any time in any place.
In the mean time I am quite enjoying my single life, I don’t have to worry if I’m embarrassing anyone but myself when I say some random crazy thing in public.
I also went kayaking with one of my other best friends at lake Natoma at dusk. It had been a while since I had been on this lake and it was my friend’s first time on this particular body of water and the weather was good. I practiced self rescue in my kayak and snorkeled a bit as well. It wasn't the rush of the whitewater I enjoy so much but I still had a great time reacquainting myself with flat water.

Something that has been on my mind recently are the emotions of anger and fear and the roles they play in all our lives and how they affect us. One we suppress too much and the other not enough. It seems like every time someone does something wrong to ourselves or someone else we are encouraged to shut our mouths and do nothing. There is a reason we get angry, to let us know when something needs to be done. For instance if you see someone being beaten in the streets, don’t push that anger back, embrace it and use it to find some courage to do something, like speak up or call for help, instead of standing idly by. Do the right thing, not the convenient thing. I realize that anger does need to be tempered and getting mad at stupid things is detrimental not beneficial. That’s why it is up to each and every one of us to be an adult and discern the difference between responsible anger and temper tantrum anger.
Time to talk about that second emotion now, fear. We have been taught not to do one thing or another at some point in our lives because to do that thing might cause us harm. In a lot of cases this comes in handy, things like wading into a pit of toxic waste or jumping into a tank of hungry sharks at feeding time are not things you should really do. Too often though we are also taught to fear things that pose no real danger to us, like going into the woods alone or riding a bicycle on a road shared by cars. What really poses the danger is when you are afraid of doing what others say you shouldn't. Make your own decisions because that fear can cause you to panic and freeze. It will make you stay in your comfort zone and prevent you from doing something new for the fear of failing, which in itself is a failure. When fear does this it can be a self fulfilling prophecy. You will fail because you are afraid of failing. Be bold, try new things, and if you fail, you fail. You’ll get over it, deal with those dreaded things they call consequences and learn from the experience. It’s better to live bravely and stand tall than to be cowardly and crawl.
Until next time my brave readers, be bold, live life, try new things and remember,